My brother and I have had a poor relationship for years. It’s not that he is self-absorbed and consistently hurtful and of course, he doesn’t upset me, it’s just that we haven’t spoken to each other like a normal sibling would and honestly, I was tired of trying to rejuvenate our bonding.
As families grow larger and loved ones move away, traditions help to bind family members together and strengthen ties. A ritual or family tradition can be the one constant among an ever-evolving group of related people. I’ve stayed away for seven years and for him, it’s exactly double the years and we came together this year after a long gap for Dashain, a fifteen-day-long festival celebrated across Nepal. With the festival coming to an end, his bags are packed while I decided to stay back for good and I never thought I’d say this but my eyes welled up with tears because I am going to miss him and I have no idea when I am going to see him next.
Most of us don’t realize how lucky we are to have our siblings. What I have learned all this while is that the unconditional love shouldn’t be taken for granted. I often claimed that my middle-school and high-school friends saw me at my worst and yes, that was true. Of course, I hated throughout those years because I didn’t realize that even without direct conversation, he was always there.
We both moved away after high school and I always was that underachiever or the black sheep of the family and today after all these years, I realize that life hasn’t been easy for both of us. We both have struggled and built our own paths and I don’t blame him anymore for not being there when all I needed was his support and I agree, I have been an ass and an idiot and I wish that I wasn’t what I was back then. I am just really glad that I took this vacation because this is what I exactly needed.
Everyone says that siblings become better friends through the years. The lucky ones are those who are friends with their siblings. Trust me, it is never too late to create a better relationship with your younger or older, despite any age difference. Because no matter how many times your brother makes fun of you, he will always have your back.
Go call your brothers and sisters and tell them how much they mean to you. Whether or not you see one another regularly, or only speak on occasion, a family is a family, and a sibling is forever someone who will pick up the phone.
Having a sister or a brother is like having a best friend you can’t get rid of. You know whatever you do, they will still be there.
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